So proud!

megmc: organized! Ahhh, lovely!

at 10:40AM 11/13/08

weafer: i give Tobi 24 hours to tear into that

I give Tim 8 hrs ; )

at 10:44AM 11/13/08

rachiebee: I'm pretty sure Tim stays as far away from this kind of thing as possible. Unless he's helping me organize it, because he knows it makes me happy and let's face it; Happy wife, happy life! :o)

And Tobi will figure it out pretty quickly.

The question is: Will I keep it this way and not tear it up myself!

at 10:56AM 11/13/08

megmc: happy wife, happy life!!!! Bahahahahaha!!!!! That's my hubby's motto! :o) he made me watch that video when we were engaged. So funny!

at 11:02AM 11/13/08

rachiebee: lol, I know I love that motto. All married men should learn to live by it...if they know what's good for them. hehe

at 11:18AM 11/13/08

minsco: Rachel, you have no idea how much this makes me smile. I am such an organized person, I love it! And this is beautiful!

at 05:30PM 11/13/08

weafer: @rach- I know that motto VERY well... but as Pastor Kris used to tell me "happiness is an inside job" so I pretty much forget that motto most of the time ; )

at 05:43AM 11/14/08

weafer: joking...I love you Trina

at 05:43AM 11/14/08

whill: totally speaking as a single guy and I know that the motto is said in fun... but my question for the married ladies... is that really true? Cause then I don't want to get married. I mean, I want to care, cherish, support and lavish love on my wife. But to say that I HAVE to make her happy so that there will be peace.... I must have some 'single' paradigm that I'm believeing or something. And what about us guys? What about us being happy?

at 08:43AM 11/14/08

bethanys: @ whill- No, actually a most important part is that you do not HAVE to make her happy/love her and yet you still do. That is what blesses a wife most... to not demand it/nag/etc and to be lavishly loved. Where it gets incredibly tricky is the communication part. How do you speak your wife's language to tell her you love her? And... she has to be able to communicate what makes her feel loved to you... as simple as it might sound, it is so not simple. :)

at 09:28AM 11/14/08

katrina: I think it's more about choosing your battles and compromise. But like my wise hubby said "Happiness is an inside job" You can never 'make' someone happy who isn't happy with their own self in the first place. Make sense?

at 09:31AM 11/14/08

katrina: well said Bethany.

at 09:31AM 11/14/08

katrina: Oh, and Rach, Very good Job!!! Looks great!
Question...is it still organized ;)

at 09:32AM 11/14/08

whill: Totally makes sense! Thanks for the input... it renews my desire to meet my wife! hehe!

at 11:43AM 11/14/08

weafer: whill - the Lord withholds no good thing from a man whose walk is blameless - he who has found a wife has found a good thing - the blood of the lamb and walking with Him makes your walk blameless = the Lord will release the right person at the right time.

I totally recommend praying proberbs 31 over your wife and praying that He is preparing her for you and you for her.
Even if you don't know who she is, the Father knows her and He'll honour you praying for her.

bless you man, you seem awesome

at 11:52AM 11/14/08

whill: It may seem that way.... once your get to know though... you'll find out that....

YOU"RE RIGHT!!!!

at 11:55AM 11/14/08

whill: It takes one to know one!

at 11:56AM 11/14/08

rachiebee: wow this is really funny that I started a philosophical discussion on marriage. It was a joke. And a very funny one. That's all!

BUT, to expound a little further: I have been asking Tim to help me organize for a couple weeks, but he (and I, to be fair) have been putting it off. At the end of the day, when he wants to "cuddle" (or whatever you want to call it - trying to keep it family friendly, here), all I can think about is the stress of my messy house and all of the papers from my business strewn about the house, and how I am going to have to work on that tomorrow....or I might just start wondering if it will EVER get done, which stresses me out more, and makes me want to roll over and fall asleep. Not "cuddle." So that stresses him out. Men have their needs, too, I realize this. So when I am really stressed out, it affects both of us. The reason I was stressed? A Messy and unorganized house. Once it got taken care of, life has been MUCH happier.

And yes, my true happiness is with Jesus, but when you have piles of laundry, paperwork, late bills, mail, toys, dishes, etc, etc, etc all over the place, it's hard to stay focused on what makes you happy.

Hope that makes sense.

at 11:58AM 11/14/08

rachiebee: @ katrina - yes it's STILL organized and I LOVE IT!

at 12:00PM 11/14/08

bina: i'm not getting into this discussion because i had (had -- am divorced now after years of praying to god to fix it) a bad marriage and have no advice to give but its been interesting to read all this...

at 12:17PM 11/14/08

whill: I didn't mean to imply anything about anyone here. It's just that I've been hearing that catch phrase a lot lately. Usually in the context that there is an issue at the present moment that's being worked through. Idk! It was coming from guys I know and then seeing the women here say it to made it sound so.... one sided. And I have seen marriages that have been one sided one way or the other. It just hit me weird and normally I would just let it lie but deep inside I think I would have accepted a lie that it would solely depend on me.

I'm in a frame of mind now to be transparent and voice my thoughts and/or feelings as oppossed to letting the confusion fester into something else entirely different.

at 01:06PM 11/14/08

rachiebee: Hey, go and voice all you want! It's good to discuss things! For sure! I wasn't offended! :o)

I think the communication part is the #1 key. My husband has no need to go and complain to his guy friends. He tells me! lol, which makes for some interesting confrontations! But, it works great. Same with me, he knows ALL of my issues. :o)

And if he wasn't happy, I wouldn't really be either. :o)

at 01:09PM 11/14/08

bina: i think (based solely on my own really negative experience) that sometimes when guys say that happy wife, happy life can be said in such a way as to appear negative. like if u don't keep the wife happy ur life will be miserable.

at 04:05PM 11/14/08

weafer: @rach- hahaahaha about "cuddle"

You are seriously funny!
I hope that we can hang out over Christmas. Did Katrina tell you we're coming down there from the 23rd 'till the 2nd? plus going to KC?

at 04:18AM 11/15/08

rachiebee: Glad I can make you laugh, haha.

And yes, I heard you're going to be here! I'm so excited!!! But...we're not sure about KC anymore. We all have been discussing it in our group and a lot of us are really worn out on OneThing. Mostly because we've gone the past 7 years!! The last two times with Tobi have just been kinda stressful and I hardly get much out of it. So....yeah, I dunno. I want to go for the community aspect, but that's about it. Not tyring to be discouraging of course, I think it's awesome what they do, but like I said...we're just a little burnt out!

at 07:20AM 11/15/08

katrina: Change your mind for our sake :)
But seriously have you guys ever gone with anyone else that had kids around the same age as Tobi? I bet it would make a huge difference. Aaaaaaaand he is older now, and can focus on things longer, like books, and games and stuff. The 4 of us could rotate on some kind of schedual with watching them....I bet it'll be great, the girls and Tobi get along so well any way.
I hear ya on the burned out thing....but just consider, that I really think that this year is huge, I dunno........let's do a con call today!!!

at 07:44AM 11/15/08

jazz: how did I miss this post? Rach, it looks amazing!!! Totally inspiring me today :)

at 07:48AM 11/15/08

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